Trust yourself, you’ve got this!

Trust yourself, you’ve got this

On the weekend I attended a brilliant birthing workshop with Nadine O’Mara of She Births. With just over 4 weeks to go to baby’s due date, it’s high time to sink deep into the world of what is about to become my world!

By the end of the first day however, I’ll admit I was completely overwhelmed. Like how on earth was I going to be able to do this? You know, birth a baby. The fear of the impending birthing experience held me in a kind of panic.

When I had a look at what was actually going on inside my head, I saw there was a lack of trust in my body’s ability to birth this baby and I was very interested in where it came from.

Every time we take on something new, there are always going to be thoughts of ‘is this even possible’ because the brain has no pattern for how this could even look in reality.
What we are left with most times is an image of how we have seen it to be in the past whether that’s been through film or tv, or even witnessing the experience first hand.
Now if that experience was a positive experience then the individual would be there with an understanding they they could create a positive experience.
But if it the experience witnessed was traumatic and it had not been dealt with, then the individual might be left with fear and doubt and that what they had witnessed in the past could actually be in their future.

Thoughts attached could be anything from can I do it? Is my body strong enough? Do I have what it takes? Am I the right person for the job? Who am I to… etc. Whatever area of life you may be dealing with, the stories will be right there to try and keep you safe and comfortable in the known. You know, life as we know in the present moment. The thing about living in the known is that we don’t get to experience all the richness and beauty that life has to offer us.

The good news is the mind is extraordinary. And what you feed it daily helps shape the reality you see.

What we can do is acknowledge the thought head on. Get it as succinctly as possible without bringing any drama to it – keeping drama out of it can be challenging but amazing for transforming. Even thank it for being there as it’s actually just trying to keep you (and me) safe.

The next stage would be start creating new brain patterns.
Watch and partake in positive situations where people have experienced something similar, overcome it, worked through it, even enjoyed it.

Start envisioning yourself doing that thing, elegantly, gracefully, with a real sense of joy and fulfilment. See yourself, feel it, see if you can smell what the room smells like (flowers, essential oils etc). The more senses you bring in, the better.

Lastly bring in trust. You can actually can do this. You might not know how it’s going to turn out step by step but you and I are capable far beyond even the seemingly possible for a human being. Trust in your body and your mind to create the future you want to see.

So what could you bring trust to in your life? What could you create for your future that goes beyond fears and doubts, and would bring fulfilment and richness?

For me, I’m envisioning an elegant, even enjoyable birthing experience where I know that I will do whatever it takes to deliver a healthy baby while looking after my own health. I trust my body knows what to do (because it actually does) and I trust there will be many people available to support this process.